Well i am worried about my son..... trying to find the balance between enabling and giving loving support and trying to remember that I have no control over him or what he does or his life!! I can tell from his FB posts he is ruminating over the loss of his girlfriend a year ago, sounds like she recently responded to an email from him and he is realizing he needs to let go (that is good) but it sounds like yesterday he was relapsing again. I think he has been up all night... I sent him a loving msg over FB which he read but did not respond to... and I sent him a text, again no response. All of which does not bode well. So I am cutting off funds..... and I am going to call my contact in the program he was in and let he know I am worried. I think that is all I can do.. I am going ff to play bridge this afternoon which is good for me. We are going to visit him next week.... I have been looking forward to the visit but now I am starting to dread it..... it wont be fun if he is drinking again... and/or kicked out of his sober house. Dang I just hate this roller coaster ride we are all on. It feels like it will never end.