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call 911........call 911
I think you reacted very well to her outrage. And I think SLSH's advice is very sound. You detached, you did not react, you stood your ground, you allowed some give (the lap top for assignments) so you weren't a totalitarian parent, and you didn't give in to her childish demands. You stated what would happen each time she chose to disobey you (calling the police) and I believe you will.
When we went through this with Dude? He made basically the exact same statements. All my teachers are with me. You blah, blah, blah as a parent. I'm leaving here in XX weeks and you can't stop me. Okey dokey - I called his teachers - they had no clue. I do not stink as a parent, that's one angry child's opinion. You're welcome to come and go as you please - I will be calling the police, and you will be spending time in your very empty room, on the bed, and it will be void of EVERYTHING, since we were the ones that purchased those things for you and we are XXX parents, and you don't need us, and you're going to get everything on your own - you can start here. And we did - we boxed up everything - we even took the door. Anything that he didn't earn the money for elsewhere or on his own to purchse for himself? Was gone. Even underwear. So when the officer brought him home - we brought the officer in - showed HIM the room, and despite the stoic look on the officers face? Dude blew a cork - and we said - Enjoy the next 2 months in this room we allow you to have in OUR house, and you may use the bed, and covers.
Believe me, the test of wills does NOT last long even with the hardest of children - they do not like to be without THEIR things. Especially THEIR door.
Keep up the good work with "Team Lauren." -
When we went through this with Dude? He made basically the exact same statements. All my teachers are with me. You blah, blah, blah as a parent. I'm leaving here in XX weeks and you can't stop me. Okey dokey - I called his teachers - they had no clue. I do not stink as a parent, that's one angry child's opinion. You're welcome to come and go as you please - I will be calling the police, and you will be spending time in your very empty room, on the bed, and it will be void of EVERYTHING, since we were the ones that purchased those things for you and we are XXX parents, and you don't need us, and you're going to get everything on your own - you can start here. And we did - we boxed up everything - we even took the door. Anything that he didn't earn the money for elsewhere or on his own to purchse for himself? Was gone. Even underwear. So when the officer brought him home - we brought the officer in - showed HIM the room, and despite the stoic look on the officers face? Dude blew a cork - and we said - Enjoy the next 2 months in this room we allow you to have in OUR house, and you may use the bed, and covers.
Believe me, the test of wills does NOT last long even with the hardest of children - they do not like to be without THEIR things. Especially THEIR door.
Keep up the good work with "Team Lauren." -