Scent of Cedar *
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husband is going to get difficult child daughter on Friday. They should be back the following week. Currently, the plan is for her to recuperate here, maybe do some online tutoring for money (difficult child was a math/science teacher), attend NAMI Peer to Peer groups (while I do the Family to Family). We leave in April. We don't have an end date for her to be out on her own again. Honestly, we need to assess the amount of brain damage. There are some obvious deficits presently, but these will hopefully resolve in time. We will be applying for disability for her if she hasn't already done that through the Shelter.
I don't even know what to tell you about the neighbor situation. They continued to keep contact through all this time. Really, they are great friends. Rather than look at this as a problem, or even, rather than look at this any way at all, I am just going to let go.
difficult child is talking to the abusive male from jail on the telephone. husband was all "That's it!" But I am going to let that one ride, too.
What I need to do next is learn about the shelters in this area. Just in case. And I think it would not hurt to talk to them too, so I will. We need to know how to get out of this if we have to. I think difficult child needs to know where the power lies, here ~ which would be with us. So, I had better get busy and lay claim to that. She is so darn manipulative....
For myself, an emphasis on my own physical, psychological and emotional health. Which I also better get started on, because I have been so wiped over what has been happening that I have let those things slip. Not a good sign.
What would you do, how would you look at this, what else do I need to know, please?
Thanks, everyone. The closer the time comes, the less we want to take this on. While it could be that difficult child will recover beautifully, reclaim her life, and become independent again...it could get so ugly, too.
If she stays at the Shelter, she will have access to many kinds of help. I believe that kind of help will still be available to her next Spring up North. So really, we are looking at about a four month committment.
Cedar
I don't even know what to tell you about the neighbor situation. They continued to keep contact through all this time. Really, they are great friends. Rather than look at this as a problem, or even, rather than look at this any way at all, I am just going to let go.
difficult child is talking to the abusive male from jail on the telephone. husband was all "That's it!" But I am going to let that one ride, too.
What I need to do next is learn about the shelters in this area. Just in case. And I think it would not hurt to talk to them too, so I will. We need to know how to get out of this if we have to. I think difficult child needs to know where the power lies, here ~ which would be with us. So, I had better get busy and lay claim to that. She is so darn manipulative....
For myself, an emphasis on my own physical, psychological and emotional health. Which I also better get started on, because I have been so wiped over what has been happening that I have let those things slip. Not a good sign.
What would you do, how would you look at this, what else do I need to know, please?
Thanks, everyone. The closer the time comes, the less we want to take this on. While it could be that difficult child will recover beautifully, reclaim her life, and become independent again...it could get so ugly, too.
If she stays at the Shelter, she will have access to many kinds of help. I believe that kind of help will still be available to her next Spring up North. So really, we are looking at about a four month committment.
Cedar