exhausted
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difficult child has somehow lengthened her drama/relapse cycle each time. We got about 5 weeks out of this one. LAst night we were awakened by the phone ringing at 1:30 (husband has to be up and at work by 5:00). Got up and difficult child was outside talking to this guy she met at her first job and sometimes talks to over the phone. I knew this was coming. One friend is on vacation, one is now working and available 24 hours and she was bored. Also she got a Facebook message from his girlfriend to back off-don't know how she even knew difficult child, who claims to have not ever known her. She claims no sexual interest-but what was he doing at 1:30 am. I gave it some time then went to the door-she came in the moment I opened the door and he was already hoofing it-they heard me get up I'm sure.
I texted him on my phone-she had borrowed it to text him while we were out shopping yesterday. I told him he woke us up and he needed to come during the day to meet us-man-up basically (why oh why don't I just shut up and stay out of it.. I just can't seem to all the time) Of course I got the excuse chain...... Then I got difficult child frantic about losing another friend and it is all my fault blah..blah!
I told her to go to bed, I was tired. I again reminded her of our boundaries about phone calls and tried to sleep.
This morning as I was dusting around computer, found 2 names and prisoner numbers (By now I know what these look like and they start with 18 always). She's in relapse again. The boredom, not going to meetings but then telling me she was going to go with a friend from 1st Residential Treatment Center (RTC), the not being motivated to do anything really.
Hope she will pull it together. 18 is coming on fast and she has to be working or going to school (sucessfully) full time to be here. I hope I can do it.
I am proud that I did not obsess, that I am carrying on with my day and I will not go over this with her. Just needed to get this out of me and vent.
I texted him on my phone-she had borrowed it to text him while we were out shopping yesterday. I told him he woke us up and he needed to come during the day to meet us-man-up basically (why oh why don't I just shut up and stay out of it.. I just can't seem to all the time) Of course I got the excuse chain...... Then I got difficult child frantic about losing another friend and it is all my fault blah..blah!
I told her to go to bed, I was tired. I again reminded her of our boundaries about phone calls and tried to sleep.
This morning as I was dusting around computer, found 2 names and prisoner numbers (By now I know what these look like and they start with 18 always). She's in relapse again. The boredom, not going to meetings but then telling me she was going to go with a friend from 1st Residential Treatment Center (RTC), the not being motivated to do anything really.
Hope she will pull it together. 18 is coming on fast and she has to be working or going to school (sucessfully) full time to be here. I hope I can do it.
I am proud that I did not obsess, that I am carrying on with my day and I will not go over this with her. Just needed to get this out of me and vent.