OK Hello All.I just joined the forum.My story sounds just like most of the others here. I have a 20 year old son who has his own apartment.He gets up for work every morning and works 6 days a week.He has just recently started giving me some money from his paycheck to hold for him for savings, which is throwing me off.He makes about $2000 a month, and rent is about $600.He is trying to give me another $300 a week to save, so where is the other $1100?I think we know.He has admitted to smoking pot and taking prescription drugs,but I just found out yesterday that it might be coke and heroin as well(not confirmed)....scared the **** out of me.He has come to my house twice high, I read him the riot act and now every time he is supposed to come over,I have to tell him to make sure hes not high.It is hard to tell sometimes.So today at 5 oclock,I am going to pick him up from work and bring him to my house.He probably will not want to, but I'm going to be insisstant.Im going to tell him that I love him, he is killing himself and destroying his family and needs help.I spoke to an inpatient facility and they need to interveiw him, so basically he needs to admit his problem.My question is,what if he dosent admit having a problem?I know I can force him.Do I just sit back and wait for the call that he overdosed?Second issue..he has a car,and I know he drives high.I want to take away his car.If he says he has a problem and wants to go to outpatient,with no car, he will not go.I would be able to take hime sometimes,but I dont live that close to him.Any suggestions?