One last thing, and I know you already know this, but I want to emphasize this because it can be intimidating when you sit down at an IEP meeting and there's 75 people on "their" side and just little ole' you on your son's side. You are a full member of the IEP team. Your opinion counts. You can also bring support people to an IEP mtg. I always took my very large binder, prominently labelled "IDEA REGS" and my other large binder, prominently labelled "IL STATE SPED REGS" (by this time, I had had to get rather assertive with them, and I didn't mind reminding them that I wasn't a pushover). I also clipped the most recent picture of whichever kid the IEP mtg was about to the front of the top binder, so that *I* would stay focused on the kid, not the personalities and the power struggles.