Hello I have an adult son in his late 20's, let me start by saying he is a great person, but his drinking has lead to problem after problem, several DUI's and now an assault charge that it appears will land him in prison for a couple years (he lives several states away). My relationship with him has always been very strong, though I know and openly admit that I have been an enabler, bailing him out, helping him out however possible. Knowing that he is facing these consequences has been devastating to me, it has nearly rendered me paralyzed. It has weighed so heavily on me that I simply can't function at times. Reading different post on this site and others has certainly helped me change my thinking and I am starting to realize and or come to grips with the fact that he has time and time again made decision that have had and will have a negative impact on his life. As a parent you just want the best for your children, but life isn't always so easy. I am struggling mightily with the burden, and i realize it is his burden, and that I can no longer carry it for him. Though that is easier said than done.