toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Ok my relationship with difficult child is so fragile that after an interaction I sometimes disect it in my head to death and ruminate over it..... which doesnt help anyone especially me. I just called my difficult child about a practical matter I am trying to help with.... that part was fine. He did answer the phone... and then I asked him about something and he was fine and everything but I just ended up feeling like I should have kept my mouth shut.... probably should have... and then I go to this place where somehow I think than if I said something wrong it is going to send him into a relapse.....
Now really that is kind of ridiculous if I look at it logically....first of all I didnt say anything of real importance, and second it is not my relapse to create or avoid.
I guess it is hard having him far away and to continually wonder how he is really doing!! I am sure normal people go through this with their young adult sons.... but it just feels so amplified with a difficult child because I feel so clueless about so much.
In reality I think he is doing pretty well.... seems to be gettting through stuff, is still at the sober house which means he is most likely sober because at this place they are very clued in and i dont think he would get away with using for long.
I think I need to go distract myself.
TL
Now really that is kind of ridiculous if I look at it logically....first of all I didnt say anything of real importance, and second it is not my relapse to create or avoid.
I guess it is hard having him far away and to continually wonder how he is really doing!! I am sure normal people go through this with their young adult sons.... but it just feels so amplified with a difficult child because I feel so clueless about so much.
In reality I think he is doing pretty well.... seems to be gettting through stuff, is still at the sober house which means he is most likely sober because at this place they are very clued in and i dont think he would get away with using for long.
I think I need to go distract myself.
TL