Wow. I am now operating on zero sleep for 28 hours and I'm at work. The inevitable happened and it happened last night. difficult child was supposed to be home at 10, and didn't show up until 11:00. Well, by showing up, I mean had a full fledged screaming match with GFH in our street and the neighbors called the police. I won't go into all the gory details, but three hours later, GFH was in the back of the police cruiser with handcuffs, being arrested for Assault VI. This is her first offense so I am sure it will be reduced down and her arraignment is this afternoon. After the arrest, difficult child was going crazy with grief and remorse. Can you say Stockholm Syndrome? The sheriffs (there were 6 and three police cruisers) said that they see a lot of female abuse, but this was the first young adult male abuse they had seen to this degree. It's weird too, because difficult child is a tall young man that body builds and GFH is a little thing, can't be more than 95 pounds soaking wet. He just was raised to never lay a hand on a girl, and she apparently deals best through scratching, hitting and slapping. difficult child talked me into going with him to the courthouse to find out about bail. When she was finally processed four hours later (4:00 a.m.!) the clerk said it would be 2500 to bail her out. I said, oh, okay, 250.00 - you can put that on your credit card. The clerk said, no, 2500. Her bail is set at 25,000.00. I was like for VI degree assault?? She said, no, for VI degree assault AND unlawful possession of methadone. What? difficult child, in trying to be helpful, gave the police her purse with her medications and cell phone. Well, it turns out that there was methadone in it. That she doesn't have a prescription for. Surprise. difficult child did not know about this. Do I believe him? Yes, I do. I immediately on the spot confiscated his cell phone and read through all his texts/emails. Apparently he had been asking her about drug use according to his texts and she was denying doing any hard drugs to him. I KNEW IT. difficult child doesn't drink, and he doesn't do hard drugs. He does smoke a lot of pot, but hasn't for the last week because of job interviews. So that mystery cleared. Well, as good hearted as I am, there is no way I was going to spring for 2500. So, we hop in the car and go visit her father and stepmother (5:30 a.m.) interestingly, although this was the first time difficult child had met them, they did not seem too surprised at our news. They were very nice people. Just had always had a hard time with GFH. Then, after that news was delivered, we were off to see her mother (6:30 a.m.). Again, the first words out of her mouth to difficult child was "So, are you going to get a restraining order?" My mouth dropped. She stated she would take it from there, and go to the arraignment. She pointedly told my son to NOT go to the arraignment, as it would not behoove the situation. Both sets of parents thanked my difficult child, and did not seem surprised or upset at my son in the least - and we set off again to the house. All in all, I spent approximately 8 hours between the time she was arrested to the time I took my second shower and went to work. Seeing that I woke up yesterday morning at 8:30 - I am now running on 28 hours nonstop. difficult child apologized to us all and called his sister overseas. She spent a good hour talking to him about his inability to fix a chemically broken girl, and that he needs to leave that to the professionals. In addition, he needs to stay away from her while she's going through treatment and anger management counseling or whatever the court is going to give her. So now, difficult child is dejectedly looking through all his texts and trying to figure out where it went wrong and crying. ( a lot ). The one good thing to come out of this is a possible No Contact order, that I hope with all my heart gets ordered so he can start to detox and I can get him in counseling. I don't consider that I stepped in to fix the situation. I felt I needed to do something, as a mother, for this young girl whom I do not appreciate or like very much, but jail is hard and I felt her parents needed to know. I am so hoping that this forced separation will break his addiction. I hope. So, there you go, there is the end to this chapter of drama.