HELP - at the E.R.

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Jules71, Oct 21, 2013.

  1. Jules71

    Jules71 Warrior Mom since 2007

    Bubby has been very sad lately. This afternoon he broke down and told me he is worried about us dying and him being alone.

    He has been very clingy and huggy which is not like him.

    Didn't know what else to do. He wont stop crying. We are being checked in. :(

    Any quick advice?
  2. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    First off, (((hugs))) for your aching heart. I think I would put a call into your primary doctor and/or psychiatrist/therapist. You want to assure Bubby that he will be okay and let him cling to you as long as you are able. Hopefully he will get some help, he may need a medication adjustment. Please keep us updated, we tend to worry.
  3. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    (((((hugs))))) Know that you are doing the right thing.
  4. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    ((hugs)) It is such a hard thing to go through. Hopefully it will just be a minor medication adjustment. My heart is breaking for you both. I hope things are better very soon.
  5. Jules71

    Jules71 Warrior Mom since 2007

    Looks like we might be getting a referral to Childrens.

    He is having a full blown panic attack.
  6. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Children's is the best place for him. Most children's hospitals are very good at helping.
  7. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    More (((hugs))). While it must be upsetting for all of you, remember that it is good (in a very small way) that they are seeing Bubby's issues so clearly. Many people try to minimize their symptoms and behaviors so the care providers never get a clear picture.
  8. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    you did a great job getting him there for help while the doctors can see his state. Taking him later or talking to the therapist in a week would not have made as much of an impression.

    Scary yes but at least you know he will be cared for by trained professionals.
  9. Jules71

    Jules71 Warrior Mom since 2007

    3+ hours here and we have talked to one social worker. No docs. He seems to finally be done panicking.

    SW is trying to get him admitted to Children's but not having any success so far because it "is after hours"....??? Grrrrr
  10. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    It's 530AM here, I hope your little man is settled. (((Hugs)))
  11. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Positive thoughts with you and Buddy this morning - update?

  12. Bunny

    Bunny Active Member

    Did Children's admit him? My fingers are crossed for you and for Buddy.
  13. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    I am hoping that Buddy was admitted, and he is feeling better. How are you doing?
  14. Castle Queen

    Castle Queen Warrior in training

    (((HUGS))) Hoping he got into Children's and you all got some sleep?
  15. Jules71

    Jules71 Warrior Mom since 2007

    Thanks everyone for the support! They could not get him admitted to Children's last night. They let us go home. He is "in the queue" for Children's once they have an open bed. He slept ok and I kept him home from school today.

    Does anyone know how long I can keep him out of school without it messing things up? Is there a legal answer to that question - or who should I contact?? I am not sure how long it will be before we get a call from Children's and I don't think I should push school right now. Just don't know what to do.
  16. jal

    jal Member

    Does he have an IEP? I know a medical diagnostics status can buy you 45 days with school providing a tutor.
  17. Jules71

    Jules71 Warrior Mom since 2007

    Yes, he has an IEP classified under "other - health impaired" for ADHD.

    I'm sure once he is admitted they can help me with what to tell school. Just wondering what to do now. I don't know if I should insist he go to school or not. I don't want to do the wrong thing and make things worse.

    I know school is contributing to this and he told the social worker at the hospital that his teacher "is not helpful" and "makes him feel stupid".
  18. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Does he have a psychiatrist?
  19. Jules71

    Jules71 Warrior Mom since 2007

    No, not currently. We have several appointments in the works starting Nov. 25 for psychological testing with a psychiatrist we haven't seen yet.
  20. Jules71

    Jules71 Warrior Mom since 2007

    Still not sure what to do. Kept him home from school again today. I am really stressing out. No one has called us yet about getting in to Children's. I am starting to back-pedal and wonder if we really need this or not. I think we do, I am just scared. I can't talk to my husband about it because he tends to put his head in the sand. If you don't talk about it then there is no problem. Then if I try to involve him he just blames me in an effort to not have to do anything. My feelings of being uncomfortable are far less important than my child's unhappiness though.

    I didn't give him his concerta today. He is definitely more hyper. I also see bits of his usual anger/swearing, irritability etc. He seems less sad. I don't know. I wish I had help. easy child was so upset last night because he isn't getting all of my attention. I am only ONE person. I am feeling overwhelmed. I would normally have support from my mom but she just had knee replacement surgery. I am worried about school. I wish I knew what to do. :(