I have lived for 5 yrs with my precious difficult child whom I love very much. Our lives were in a constant uproar because of his behaviors that all of it over time seemed like a very normal lifestyle and behaviors even though I knew they were all abnormal. Now that we have him on medications and seemed to have the right combo for him, he still has his moments. I have trouble knowing what is him being a "normal" kid and what is abnormal since we lived abnormally for so long. Does anyone else wonder this? He had a melt down yesterday because it was time to get out of the pool and he got mad at the Wii because he lost. I told my husband these are normal 5 yr old behaviors. Most 5 yr olds get mad at parents if they make them do something they aren't ready to quit doing, right? I asked his psychiatrist this same question about what is normal and he said it is really hard to gauge what is "normal" because there is such a broad spectrum. Anyone else have any insight? Me--ADD, Depression zoloft and occasional concerta husband--wonderful hubby and father difficult child -- ADHD/ODD Adderall and Risperdal easy child-- 14 mo. old boy who is delightful, happy, yet very headstrong!