OpenWindow
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I'd like opinions on this please!
A preteen boy was caught inappropriately touching a younger girl in the swimming pool. They were interrupted after about 3 minutes (that's how long they were alone in the pool without an adult present). The girl admits what happened, and says it was the only time it's ever happened. We believe her, because she was very upfront about what happened that day without us having to push it at all. She said the boy threatened to tell everyone she was a lesbian if she didn't go along or if she told. The boy won't admit what happened and says the girl is lying.
They've also been talked to over and over again about how inappropriate this is, and the girl has been talked to about how to prevent it from happening again. The boy's TV and internet have been strictly limited to G and some PG movies, games, sites, etc. The two are separated unless there is an adult present.
If the children are sent to counseling, mandatory reporting will come into play. I'm not sure what happens then. Is counseling necessary for a one-time incident (I'm talking more specifically about the younger girl here), or will it just make her remember it more? I think I feel like the boy needs counseling, but not sure it needs to be reported which would get cps involved, and would also cause mandatory counseling for both.
Anyone have any advice or experience?
A preteen boy was caught inappropriately touching a younger girl in the swimming pool. They were interrupted after about 3 minutes (that's how long they were alone in the pool without an adult present). The girl admits what happened, and says it was the only time it's ever happened. We believe her, because she was very upfront about what happened that day without us having to push it at all. She said the boy threatened to tell everyone she was a lesbian if she didn't go along or if she told. The boy won't admit what happened and says the girl is lying.
They've also been talked to over and over again about how inappropriate this is, and the girl has been talked to about how to prevent it from happening again. The boy's TV and internet have been strictly limited to G and some PG movies, games, sites, etc. The two are separated unless there is an adult present.
If the children are sent to counseling, mandatory reporting will come into play. I'm not sure what happens then. Is counseling necessary for a one-time incident (I'm talking more specifically about the younger girl here), or will it just make her remember it more? I think I feel like the boy needs counseling, but not sure it needs to be reported which would get cps involved, and would also cause mandatory counseling for both.
Anyone have any advice or experience?