I have never been close to my mother or family for that matter. Since my children have been born we have maintained a relationship for the sake of my children. My difficult child son is six and has been in intervention since the age of a year. He had many verbal delays which is still very significant and has issues with impulse control. He is now taking Ritalin which has been helping. He has had speech, Occupational Therapist (OT), and now has behavior therapy privately. He did an intense autism evaluation and basically I was told that although he has some behaviors that may be a spectrum issue he has such a severe speech issue that the "team" believes he would benefit greatly from more interventions with speech and behavior therapy. I am going out of my mind. I have two other kids as well and although I have great friends that help from time to time my husband is most of the time in the clouds and I am running the show with the three kids and running my own firm. I sent over to my mother the most recent evaluation for my son and she calls me and gives a speech on why am I not doing this or that. Let it be known that she never sees my children (we live about 4 hours from each other) unless I bring them to HER at HER convenience, etc. So I get angry and say how I feel (I rarely even speak to her mind you) and asked if she is suddenly so concerned why doesn't she come down and visit, etc. My mother is not well regarded by my sister or brother either and usually I just let things go but I am so busy these days and I didn't need to hear it. She then e mailed me an apology and I replied that we should not talk for a while, I have had enough. Now here is the issue. My daughter likes to visit her and they finish swim camp next week. I promised we would visit her and I don't know what to do. I am thinking of e mailing her that my daughter wants to visit and when I can drop her off. I have some time that week to do that and then drop off my ds with my husband's family who live an hour from my mother and they could arrange to "switch kids". I find this so stressful sometimes and there are nights I just can't sleep worrying about the future of my kids. Dealing with her is not what I need to deal with right now. husband appeared to be more interested in the family bike ride we took today than talking about our son's issue which is usually the way it is. UGGGHHHHH Sorry I just had to vent.