scent of cedar
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On July 5th, the father of one of difficult child daughter's children "kidnapped/rescued" difficult child from the group of people she has been living with. (Living homeless on the streets by her own choice with, that is.) He took her far away, into the northern portions of the state. difficult child called. She is happy he did this to save her. Tells us the bad person she has been with BY HER OWN CHOICE took the I.D. she finally obtained. He told her he would kill her if and when we stopped sending that little bit of money we sent every week, and that, without I.D., by the time her body would be found, there would be no way to tie him to the murder.
I don't know how true all that is. It brings on a helpless, nightmarish pit-of-the-stomach feeling, though.
difficult child said she has been held against her will. That when we would try to force a meeting, he would beat her and hide her away from anywhere we might be. That he beat her badly before the 4th to teach her that she would never be able to get away. (We would not put money into her account unless we'd heard from difficult child.) So, apparently, he was beating her both before and after those phone calls, and may even have been listening in.
Awful stuff.
Except that difficult child called one night a few weeks ago, crying because the bad man was, supposedly, dying. He had passed out on the streets, gone into some kind of seizure, and been taken to the emergency room. (We have been told the man's liver is kaput. He has been imminently dying for a while, now.) Anyway, he was admitted to the hospital. We offered to bring difficult child home that night. We did not hear from difficult child again until it was time for her money to be deposited.
She could have come home then, is what I am trying to say. We told her to come home, then. So could it be true that difficult child was being held against her will.
And difficult child was drunk as a lord when we talked to her on the 5th. (When she told us the father of one of her children had kidnapped/rescued her away from the group of people she had been living on the streets with.) Also? That the bad man who has been imminently dying for months now, came after the man who kidnapped/rescued difficult child with a chain.
Which is pretty spry, for someone imminently dying. I'm just saying.
She explained her current drunken state by saying that, with as much as she has been drinking, as often as she has been drinking, she will be very sick if she stops cold.
And that the bad, imminently dying man kept her drunk to control her.
I'm sorry. I think I am posting more to name and dilute the trauma (that dark, numb feeling, small and tight and dangerous) at the core of this knowledge than to ask for advice. I know you will understand. I haven't reached a state of balance with all this, yet.
Or maybe, I am detached enough at this point that the horror of what has been happening to difficult child isn't affecting me the way it would have, in the past.
On the other hand, our grandchildren are doing well. They are forming a family with the ex-husband and with his family. In the past, our granddaughters have come up North for a few weeks in the summer. This summer, we decided not to do that. We did not want anything bad to happen to difficult child daughter while the grandchildren were here. Nor did we want difficult child daughter to learn they were here, so close to where she is.
So, we did not have them here with us for the 4th. That was a little bit hard, but we're feeling better about everything, now.
So, that is my update.
Barbara
I don't know how true all that is. It brings on a helpless, nightmarish pit-of-the-stomach feeling, though.
difficult child said she has been held against her will. That when we would try to force a meeting, he would beat her and hide her away from anywhere we might be. That he beat her badly before the 4th to teach her that she would never be able to get away. (We would not put money into her account unless we'd heard from difficult child.) So, apparently, he was beating her both before and after those phone calls, and may even have been listening in.
Awful stuff.
Except that difficult child called one night a few weeks ago, crying because the bad man was, supposedly, dying. He had passed out on the streets, gone into some kind of seizure, and been taken to the emergency room. (We have been told the man's liver is kaput. He has been imminently dying for a while, now.) Anyway, he was admitted to the hospital. We offered to bring difficult child home that night. We did not hear from difficult child again until it was time for her money to be deposited.
She could have come home then, is what I am trying to say. We told her to come home, then. So could it be true that difficult child was being held against her will.
And difficult child was drunk as a lord when we talked to her on the 5th. (When she told us the father of one of her children had kidnapped/rescued her away from the group of people she had been living on the streets with.) Also? That the bad man who has been imminently dying for months now, came after the man who kidnapped/rescued difficult child with a chain.
Which is pretty spry, for someone imminently dying. I'm just saying.
She explained her current drunken state by saying that, with as much as she has been drinking, as often as she has been drinking, she will be very sick if she stops cold.
And that the bad, imminently dying man kept her drunk to control her.
I'm sorry. I think I am posting more to name and dilute the trauma (that dark, numb feeling, small and tight and dangerous) at the core of this knowledge than to ask for advice. I know you will understand. I haven't reached a state of balance with all this, yet.
Or maybe, I am detached enough at this point that the horror of what has been happening to difficult child isn't affecting me the way it would have, in the past.
On the other hand, our grandchildren are doing well. They are forming a family with the ex-husband and with his family. In the past, our granddaughters have come up North for a few weeks in the summer. This summer, we decided not to do that. We did not want anything bad to happen to difficult child daughter while the grandchildren were here. Nor did we want difficult child daughter to learn they were here, so close to where she is.
So, we did not have them here with us for the 4th. That was a little bit hard, but we're feeling better about everything, now.
So, that is my update.
Barbara