tryingtobestrong
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So, back in Dec. as you know my son text me that he wanted to go to a sober living home and he needed us to help him pack his apartment and move him.. We did. He agreed to attend the sober living home's IOP program as well. It was the agreement for him to live there. So 3 weeks ago he told me he was thinking on leaving IOP. I told him that we didn't support that and also how much we have spend on this. So tonight he tells me he is definitely quitting and he won't be forced to stay in that. He will now have to leave the sober living home. He called and we told him that he should just complete the program that way he has a safe place to live. Nope, he won't listen. Said he is an adult and can make his own decisions. He is getting an apartment... I told him I will not cosign one and that pissed him off. I was told that he will need to live in a hotel and that has relapse written all over it... I was told that I am showing him that I feel he will relapse, that I don't believe in him, etc. I told him we believe in him but don't trust his addiction... I got " I have nothing else to say to you. You make me want to get loaded"
He won't even sit down and talk maturely with the director of the program, etc. He made up his mind. We suggested looking for another sober living home and got there are no good ones near my work.... Excuses.
It is killing me inside. Back on the roller coaster again. I will not co-sign. He told me I will have no ties to him anymore. Should have come back with good- get your own health care and cell phone then! Husband said I can't do that.
So very tired of this.
He makes it 6 weeks and then gets angry and quits programs, etc. I hate addiction. I just don't know when it will hit him that he needs to stay in a program!
He won't even sit down and talk maturely with the director of the program, etc. He made up his mind. We suggested looking for another sober living home and got there are no good ones near my work.... Excuses.
It is killing me inside. Back on the roller coaster again. I will not co-sign. He told me I will have no ties to him anymore. Should have come back with good- get your own health care and cell phone then! Husband said I can't do that.
So very tired of this.
He makes it 6 weeks and then gets angry and quits programs, etc. I hate addiction. I just don't know when it will hit him that he needs to stay in a program!