AllStressedOut
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It doesn't bother my husband if I have lunch with guy friends, but he does have some limits set on him by me. Not because I don't trust him, I do trust his ability to be faithful. I don't trust his ability to catch a clue when a woman is flirting. He has no idea when women flirt with him. He's a cutie and very charming, so he gets flirted with often and never sees it.
So there is a girl in his office who has no problems picking up married men. In fact I think she prefers them married. He can not EVER go to lunch with her, absolutely not. But his office mate, who is a female, I trust her completely. I have no problem with him going to lunch with her or working late with her.
The girl that I forbid him to spend time with is TROUBLE. She is currently after his friend who is married with a 2 year old. This man is already having troubles in his marriage just dealing with day to day stuff, he doesn't need this woman adding to it. But he doesn't see how it hurts. It's things like that, that I had to teach my husband. If I would have never spoken up when we first married, it would be him getting into trouble with the office tramp and not even intentionally.
Men are clueless. As long as you have your head on straight and your husband doesn't mind, I say no biggie, same for him. If his head is on straight and you don't mind, no biggie, but you both need to take eachothers feelings into consideration. As for anyone outside of your marriage...they can kiss off...it only matters how you and husband feel about it all.
So there is a girl in his office who has no problems picking up married men. In fact I think she prefers them married. He can not EVER go to lunch with her, absolutely not. But his office mate, who is a female, I trust her completely. I have no problem with him going to lunch with her or working late with her.
The girl that I forbid him to spend time with is TROUBLE. She is currently after his friend who is married with a 2 year old. This man is already having troubles in his marriage just dealing with day to day stuff, he doesn't need this woman adding to it. But he doesn't see how it hurts. It's things like that, that I had to teach my husband. If I would have never spoken up when we first married, it would be him getting into trouble with the office tramp and not even intentionally.
Men are clueless. As long as you have your head on straight and your husband doesn't mind, I say no biggie, same for him. If his head is on straight and you don't mind, no biggie, but you both need to take eachothers feelings into consideration. As for anyone outside of your marriage...they can kiss off...it only matters how you and husband feel about it all.