I found this forum last week as I was desperately trying to find advice on what to do about my 18 year old son who is a senior in high school. We discovered he had been smoking pot last year. We started drug testing him and started taking away privileges. At this point, we've taken the doors off his room because we've found pot in his room multiple times. His grandfather gave him a vehicle and the title is under my sons name. He also pays for his own insurance and gas. We've now decided to stop paying for his cell phone since he is using it to contact his pot dealer. It's so difficult because he makes B's in school, holds down a part time job and is responsible. He just refuses to stop smoking pot. Last April we found out our 15 year old daughter was drinking, smoking and sending nude pictures of herself to boys. We took away her phone and social media and she was very depressed. We had her in counseling and thought things were getting better. However, we found out last week that she was cutting daily for almost 2 months this past summer. A couple of months ago she called us to come pick her up at a party because she was so drunk. The plus side was that she called us. Last week we found out she had been taking Xanax for 3 weeks and a few days ago was in the bath tub cutting herself after taking too many Xanax and blacked out. She woke up in the tub with blood in the water and she was terrified. However, she didn't tell me until the next evening. My husband was out of town and it seems like every time there is a crisis, I'm here alone to deal with it. My daughter admitted she needs help and is going to start therapy and will have to stay in therapy indefinitely. I have been in therapy for the past 2 years and am on an antidepressant and anxiety medication. I work from home part time and feel stuck without an outlet. I'd like to be able to get away like my husband does at least once a month, but don't even know what I'd do or if it's a good idea? Has anyone else been in my shoes? If so, I would love any and all the advice I can get.