BusynMember
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How's this for a full day?
On Thursday, have to wake up around 6am and make sure everyone is packed and ready to drive to Illinois with me (hub is staying home both to watch the dogs and because he had surgery a few weeks ago and couldn't do much anyway). So I'm the driver and it's about a 4 1/2 hour drive. Then we have to check into the hotel at 2.
That gives me a little time to shower and get ready to meet the church mediator who is handling this (she is such a nice lady, think I'm going to buy her some Fannie Mae candy). The church is about 40 minutes from the hotel. After I get there, the mediator is going to meet me at the front entrance because this particular church is the second largest church in the country so it's the size of a college. I'm bad at directions and hope I find the right entrance, but I do have mediator's cell phone number in case I get lost. Finally, she is spending an hour with me first and I'm grateful for that.
After that, at 6:30, my son and his wife will meet with me. I barely know his wife and she has never been that friendly, but I think she is more comfortable with people who are Chinese because she lived there for a large part of her life and still has an accent. She is extremely beautiful and intelligent, but a little intimidating, but I really have to give her a chance and not think of her as working against me and my son. After all, she prayed with him and agreed it would be ok to see me. She didn't have to. They are a tight unit and he would not have set this up if she hadn't agreed. She even got her sister to babysit for my grandson in order to allow this meeting (so it took some juggling).
Then the mediator will be there while we talk and I put it in God's hands. It would fill my world with joy to have my son back and another gorgeous little grandson in my life...he is adorable and probably really smart (like his parents).
Just as a little vent: It is extremely interesting to adopt an older child (age six here) from another culture who really does NOT have any serious disorders and is one of the first ones to get out of the orphanage because, as they said, "He is too brilliant to sit here...he needs to have a family to work to his potential." Well, he IS brilliant and doing better than most adults of age thirty-three. Money will never be an issue for him. We used to call him Bill Gates. Yet...
He came to OUR family. We are not college professors, doctors or lawyers. Ex and I are simple folks...his incredible intelligence, which is way off the charts, has left me in awe of him. He also has a great personality and social graces...he is so not like the rest of us. We are shy and wear blue jeans and are uncomfortable in large social situations.
I often feel it would have pleased him more if he'd been adopted by a family of computer geeks or doctors/lawyers. He is drawn toward successful people and likes nice things. In the worst way I just want him to know that I love him with all my heart, in the same way I love my biological child and the other adopted children who came to me at an earlier age, even though we are different (I'm not going to bring up the "even though we are different" part).
I hope this didn't bore ya too much...lol. I know I was rambling, kind of thinking out loud and typing what came into my head. Thanks for being there
On Thursday, have to wake up around 6am and make sure everyone is packed and ready to drive to Illinois with me (hub is staying home both to watch the dogs and because he had surgery a few weeks ago and couldn't do much anyway). So I'm the driver and it's about a 4 1/2 hour drive. Then we have to check into the hotel at 2.
That gives me a little time to shower and get ready to meet the church mediator who is handling this (she is such a nice lady, think I'm going to buy her some Fannie Mae candy). The church is about 40 minutes from the hotel. After I get there, the mediator is going to meet me at the front entrance because this particular church is the second largest church in the country so it's the size of a college. I'm bad at directions and hope I find the right entrance, but I do have mediator's cell phone number in case I get lost. Finally, she is spending an hour with me first and I'm grateful for that.
After that, at 6:30, my son and his wife will meet with me. I barely know his wife and she has never been that friendly, but I think she is more comfortable with people who are Chinese because she lived there for a large part of her life and still has an accent. She is extremely beautiful and intelligent, but a little intimidating, but I really have to give her a chance and not think of her as working against me and my son. After all, she prayed with him and agreed it would be ok to see me. She didn't have to. They are a tight unit and he would not have set this up if she hadn't agreed. She even got her sister to babysit for my grandson in order to allow this meeting (so it took some juggling).
Then the mediator will be there while we talk and I put it in God's hands. It would fill my world with joy to have my son back and another gorgeous little grandson in my life...he is adorable and probably really smart (like his parents).
Just as a little vent: It is extremely interesting to adopt an older child (age six here) from another culture who really does NOT have any serious disorders and is one of the first ones to get out of the orphanage because, as they said, "He is too brilliant to sit here...he needs to have a family to work to his potential." Well, he IS brilliant and doing better than most adults of age thirty-three. Money will never be an issue for him. We used to call him Bill Gates. Yet...
He came to OUR family. We are not college professors, doctors or lawyers. Ex and I are simple folks...his incredible intelligence, which is way off the charts, has left me in awe of him. He also has a great personality and social graces...he is so not like the rest of us. We are shy and wear blue jeans and are uncomfortable in large social situations.
I often feel it would have pleased him more if he'd been adopted by a family of computer geeks or doctors/lawyers. He is drawn toward successful people and likes nice things. In the worst way I just want him to know that I love him with all my heart, in the same way I love my biological child and the other adopted children who came to me at an earlier age, even though we are different (I'm not going to bring up the "even though we are different" part).
I hope this didn't bore ya too much...lol. I know I was rambling, kind of thinking out loud and typing what came into my head. Thanks for being there