Marcie Mac
Just Plain Ole Tired
I received a call from my Aunt and Cousin last week - they are moving my mom from SC up to Ohio close to them - she will be in an assisted living facility as she can no longer live on her own, and really doesn't have anyone in SC now that my brother has died.
My mom has been, well, pretty hysterical over money issues. Seems my sister in law's mother called her and wanted to know if she had a will and to remind her she needed to "take care" of sister in law, who, a week after my brother died, took my mother to her attorney so she could get full power of attorney, have a will made, and be the executor of my mothers will. My mother said no, she has had a will for years, everything was to go to bro and me, and now that he is not around, just me, and a full blown whoohaa has started in the family over me and this money, and how my sister in law was there and I was not, bla bla, which prompted this call from the relatives. I find it kind of amusing I have never ever ever asked my mother for so much as a dime, and bro and wife have been constant borrowers, hitting her up for 10,000 a month or so before he died, but I am I the bad guy once again.
I told my Aunt I have no idea of how much money my mother has, but I have told my mother repeatedly I wasn't interested in it, whatever she has, needs to go to her care and living expenses. They checked out the assisted living and it will be about 3,500 a month and when her money is gone, they will revert to using her SS money. I told them to go for it - they will make sure she is well taken care of and will be only about 10 minutes away from them. The place has a lot of activities going on all the time for the seniors so she will not be stuck somewhere all alone like she is now.
My aunt secured the services of an attorney for my mother and she will be made executor for now and thats given me a lot of relief. My sister in law blew it - my mother already was upset with her because she would not let her come to see my bro when he was dying and with the hustle to get herself in charge of my mothers money just was the final straw.
I have always told easy child he will be in charge if something happens to me - after hearing the tale of my mother - he said thanks a lot - just what I want is to have a lot of grief and aggrivation for the rest of my life from my sister and difficult child.
Maybe I should just cash everything out, grab a boy toy (or Raoul for that matter), and spend the rest of my days with him on a remote island in the Pacific somewhere..
Marcie
My mom has been, well, pretty hysterical over money issues. Seems my sister in law's mother called her and wanted to know if she had a will and to remind her she needed to "take care" of sister in law, who, a week after my brother died, took my mother to her attorney so she could get full power of attorney, have a will made, and be the executor of my mothers will. My mother said no, she has had a will for years, everything was to go to bro and me, and now that he is not around, just me, and a full blown whoohaa has started in the family over me and this money, and how my sister in law was there and I was not, bla bla, which prompted this call from the relatives. I find it kind of amusing I have never ever ever asked my mother for so much as a dime, and bro and wife have been constant borrowers, hitting her up for 10,000 a month or so before he died, but I am I the bad guy once again.
I told my Aunt I have no idea of how much money my mother has, but I have told my mother repeatedly I wasn't interested in it, whatever she has, needs to go to her care and living expenses. They checked out the assisted living and it will be about 3,500 a month and when her money is gone, they will revert to using her SS money. I told them to go for it - they will make sure she is well taken care of and will be only about 10 minutes away from them. The place has a lot of activities going on all the time for the seniors so she will not be stuck somewhere all alone like she is now.
My aunt secured the services of an attorney for my mother and she will be made executor for now and thats given me a lot of relief. My sister in law blew it - my mother already was upset with her because she would not let her come to see my bro when he was dying and with the hustle to get herself in charge of my mothers money just was the final straw.
I have always told easy child he will be in charge if something happens to me - after hearing the tale of my mother - he said thanks a lot - just what I want is to have a lot of grief and aggrivation for the rest of my life from my sister and difficult child.
Maybe I should just cash everything out, grab a boy toy (or Raoul for that matter), and spend the rest of my days with him on a remote island in the Pacific somewhere..
Marcie