pigless in VA
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It is now June. My step-mother the Cactus Queen admitted that she never got my poor father suffering from Alzheimer's the driving evaluation. She did not take him for a second visit at the neurologist's office. My dad did have some memory testing but CQ has not divulged the results of the testing. She claims that my dad's primary care doctor "says he is perfectly fine to drive." None of the adult "children" have been to any doctor's appointments with them.
I think I have only spoken to them twice since the throwdown where I found out that she went back on our deal of having my father evaluated for his driving skills. I see no point in having a conversation with someone as unreasonable as she is. I have no desire to visit them. I might be willing to meet at a neutral place, but that would mean my dad was out on the road driving.
Yes, I considered reporting my dad's bad driving incident to DMV. I decided not to, because quite frankly, I am afraid of what CQ's repercussions would be. She would never take my dad to DMV anyway, and I can see her just allowing him to drive even without a license. I seriously doubt he could pass any test. At any rate, according to the family grapevine, CQ is looking very tired and worn out. No one is helping them. No one is visiting them. My dad would like to see his grandchildren.
Apparently, CQ and Mark also had a rift over a trailer (i.e. a money disagreement) and now Mark is not involved with them anymore either.
Letty attempted to explain to her that people were upset about Dad not having a driving evaluation. Letty specifically asked me to call CQ and explain to her that her actions have had the consequence of alienating them from the adult children and grandchildren.
I am sad that I don't see my dad, but I know that whatever I do will be misrepresented to everyone else by CQ. So, I think the best course for me is to stay as far away from this mess as possible. CQ is like a coiled rattlesnake just waiting to strike. I'm sorry my dad chose to be in a nest with the snake, but that was a choice he made long ago. Certainly, my dad is in no position to understand any of the dynamics. I don't even call, because I know he is still driving. Someone is going to be hurt before long.
I think I have only spoken to them twice since the throwdown where I found out that she went back on our deal of having my father evaluated for his driving skills. I see no point in having a conversation with someone as unreasonable as she is. I have no desire to visit them. I might be willing to meet at a neutral place, but that would mean my dad was out on the road driving.
Yes, I considered reporting my dad's bad driving incident to DMV. I decided not to, because quite frankly, I am afraid of what CQ's repercussions would be. She would never take my dad to DMV anyway, and I can see her just allowing him to drive even without a license. I seriously doubt he could pass any test. At any rate, according to the family grapevine, CQ is looking very tired and worn out. No one is helping them. No one is visiting them. My dad would like to see his grandchildren.
Apparently, CQ and Mark also had a rift over a trailer (i.e. a money disagreement) and now Mark is not involved with them anymore either.
Letty attempted to explain to her that people were upset about Dad not having a driving evaluation. Letty specifically asked me to call CQ and explain to her that her actions have had the consequence of alienating them from the adult children and grandchildren.
I am sad that I don't see my dad, but I know that whatever I do will be misrepresented to everyone else by CQ. So, I think the best course for me is to stay as far away from this mess as possible. CQ is like a coiled rattlesnake just waiting to strike. I'm sorry my dad chose to be in a nest with the snake, but that was a choice he made long ago. Certainly, my dad is in no position to understand any of the dynamics. I don't even call, because I know he is still driving. Someone is going to be hurt before long.