This has been hanging over me since June. Just want to put it out there for other's thoughts, input, support. Difficult Child was staying at friend's house. They allowed her to use their extra vehicle to get to work, and other times. (Not that she went to work, but used the vehicle to run the roads instead, but that's irreverent right now). Anyway, one night she and a minor friend went joy riding, and she totaled vehicle. Couple of things: - Given a ticket for careless driving ($420) - Minor child's family suing the insurance company of family where Difficult Child was staying for medical expenses. - Since mishap, Difficult Child has been asked to move out - Family wants Difficult Child to pay difference not covered by insurance - Our medical insurance won't process any medical bills till auto insurance info is provided first Difficult Child has court Monday for ticket. To which, I know she doesn't have the $$ saved. Just to note, family all have given her $ for her birthday so she'd at least have 1/2 of it. She also was working, and has quit several jobs since being given the ticket. Currently not working, or truly looking. We've decided we are not taking her to court, nor will we pay the ticket. Additionally, we will not cover the medical bills (and because she's no longer a minor, the bills are in her name even though we provide the insurance). I heard her boyfriend offered to pay the ticket should she not have the $ as long as she's doing what she's supposed to do. So, again, she puts on a show to make it appear that she is so he'll pay ticket. Instead of just doing the right thing herself. Reality is, if he doesn't, she probably wouldn't even show for court, or pay ticket. Which would result in suspended license and probably bench warrant. That makes me want to "take care of it" cause that would make matters so much worse! Especially should she really start working! But, it goes a long with her choices have consequences and even if we did take care of it, she'd never appreciate it, or take advantage of help and do the right things...it would be us paying for her choices once again. I really don't feel near as sick about it as I did in June...it is what it is.