Last year at this time we had just found out that difficult child relapsed after her 60 day inpatient treatment and 5 week intensive outpatient. She was getting picked up at work by her former boyfriend and smoking pot and drinking and coming home and lieing about goign to AA meetings and being sober. She started community college and almost immediately hooked up with some druggies and started not coming home after class until late at night. One day in early January she told me she was going over her firned's after school and I didn't hear from her for many hours later until about 3 am when she texted asking me to pick her up in a horrible blizzard because I had told her if she wasn't home by midnight not to come home and the mother of this boy she was with didn't want her there anymore. I was the only car on the road except for snowplows and police and it was trecherous. I cried all the way there and screamed at her all the way home. husband was out of town and I was despondant.
Several weeks later, after finding out she was not attending class and smoking pot constantly we kicked her out of the house. She went to a neighbor's house where they allowed her to smoke pot and drink 24/7 for three months until she texted me in March beggig to come home. We said no and she said she wanted to die, that she lost everythign that meant anything to her and wanted to stop. So she entered a sober house March 29, 2011.
That day began OUR recovery, for it truly is a family disease. Now nine months later she is sober, has a job, and is living independantly. While this has not come easily or without relapses, it has slowly evolved into a new life for her and for us.
Looking back on this last year with sadness for what we went through and joy for what is ahead. I am glad to say goodby to 2011 and hoping with everything inside me that 2012 continues to evolve into the best year of difficult child's life.
Nancy
Several weeks later, after finding out she was not attending class and smoking pot constantly we kicked her out of the house. She went to a neighbor's house where they allowed her to smoke pot and drink 24/7 for three months until she texted me in March beggig to come home. We said no and she said she wanted to die, that she lost everythign that meant anything to her and wanted to stop. So she entered a sober house March 29, 2011.
That day began OUR recovery, for it truly is a family disease. Now nine months later she is sober, has a job, and is living independantly. While this has not come easily or without relapses, it has slowly evolved into a new life for her and for us.
Looking back on this last year with sadness for what we went through and joy for what is ahead. I am glad to say goodby to 2011 and hoping with everything inside me that 2012 continues to evolve into the best year of difficult child's life.
Nancy