They were nice. But clear. If difficult child misses one more day of school between now and Dec. 7, he gets kicked out. If he has any more absences ie. dr appointment, he must have a signed dr's note. (I rarely take him to the dr. Didn't even take him for the flu. Why pay $ for the obvious? And he drives me nuts because he won't take pain medications for headaches, and he continues to find milk products outside of our house and eat them, and then have a stomach ache the next day.) He must complete 90% of his homework. He must be separated from his classmates at lunch. (He's been eating wheat and lying about it. I found a bunch of old lunches in his locker and it smelled oh! so good. NOT.) He is flunking all but one core class. Maybe it's best that he attend public school and get an IEP. But he told easy child that his goal was to flunk out of this private school so he could go to school with-his friends. I don't want to give him what he wants. If he's got an IEP, chances are, he'll only have about 1/2 the same classes with-his friends, anyway, so maybe that's okay. There are Special Education schools here but they are 1 hr away and very expensive. I'm not sure if we could handle the commute, because we are landlocked, and if the bridges are raised, or the tunnels have car crashes, the cars get backed up all day and I just don't have the patience for that. I am assuming, as you can see, that no matter how we lower the boom, difficult child will not be up to par on Dec. 7. It's just as well. I don't think the teachers really "get" what Asperger's is.