Scent of Cedar *
Well-Known Member
A quick post about something good for us to remember.
:O)
Each of us has been in that shocky, optionless place when something terrible has happened with one of our difficult children. As many here know, husband and I had the news about the repeated beatings and then, the nearly terminal beating our daughter survived right around Thanksgiving. And the difficult child granddaughter thing right around Christmas. The past weeks have been such strange, out of focus kinds of things ~ like some dark, discordant music has been thundering away under the everyday jumble of life. I wanted to post that for both husband and I, that darkness seemed to have begun toning down about three days ago. (And I swear, even our dog and cat seem remarkably less high strung and more affectionate ~ which would make sense, as they are not picking up on our anxiety vibes.)
I thought it was important to post about this because I know how it feels to get those sucker punch shocks.
It feels overwhelmingly like things are never going to be okay, again.
So, given that both husband and I are feeling this changed-for-the-better outlook at the same time...I am thinking that it takes four to six weeks to incorporate whatever the latest trauma is and regain our equilibrium.
We are all so often rocked back into that traumatic place where we can hardly stand up where our difficult child kids are concerned. I think it is helpful to be able to place a time limit on the worst of it, and a beginning time limit on potential reclamation of our emotional lives.
So, I would say that four to six weeks from the date of the traumatic event, things begin to look a little brighter.
I just think it is helpful to understand that no matter how bad it feels? We do heal, we can heal.
While I have been engaging in every activity to heal myself? husband has not. Both are feeling better to the point that even the animals are calming down four weeks after the lastest trauma.
What does anyone think about this?
Maybe, it will help us survive it, if we can understand a time limit for the worst of it?
Cedar
:O)
Each of us has been in that shocky, optionless place when something terrible has happened with one of our difficult children. As many here know, husband and I had the news about the repeated beatings and then, the nearly terminal beating our daughter survived right around Thanksgiving. And the difficult child granddaughter thing right around Christmas. The past weeks have been such strange, out of focus kinds of things ~ like some dark, discordant music has been thundering away under the everyday jumble of life. I wanted to post that for both husband and I, that darkness seemed to have begun toning down about three days ago. (And I swear, even our dog and cat seem remarkably less high strung and more affectionate ~ which would make sense, as they are not picking up on our anxiety vibes.)
I thought it was important to post about this because I know how it feels to get those sucker punch shocks.
It feels overwhelmingly like things are never going to be okay, again.
So, given that both husband and I are feeling this changed-for-the-better outlook at the same time...I am thinking that it takes four to six weeks to incorporate whatever the latest trauma is and regain our equilibrium.
We are all so often rocked back into that traumatic place where we can hardly stand up where our difficult child kids are concerned. I think it is helpful to be able to place a time limit on the worst of it, and a beginning time limit on potential reclamation of our emotional lives.
So, I would say that four to six weeks from the date of the traumatic event, things begin to look a little brighter.
I just think it is helpful to understand that no matter how bad it feels? We do heal, we can heal.
While I have been engaging in every activity to heal myself? husband has not. Both are feeling better to the point that even the animals are calming down four weeks after the lastest trauma.
What does anyone think about this?
Maybe, it will help us survive it, if we can understand a time limit for the worst of it?
Cedar