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toughlovin
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Oh gosh I think I am doing so well and then it gets really hard. I got a text from my difficult child today.... he has found a homeless shelter about 20 miles away but he has no way to get there!!! I am not sure what I could have done but boy oh boy did I (and still do) want to somehow solve this for him!!! I didn't and just made suggestions about what he could do and then of course since I didnt jump in and do something he stopped texting me!!!
We did think of calling hubbys parents who do not live far from where he is... our thought was they could pick him up and drive him if he called them. Now he does not like them all that much and that itself would be a stretch for him. And we would make it very very clear to them that they should not bring him back to their place. They really don't want to do that! However we don't want to say anything to him about that possibility until we talk to them and we were not able to reach them today. Of course it is Easter and they are probably visiting family.
So I could not rescue him in this way which is maybe just a good thing.
But now I am left wondering what happened and is he ok. I did check the phone records and he was using his phone to text the girlfriend up here until about 9:30.... so at least I know he is alive and that gives me some relief.
But man this detachment thing is so so hard at times. Mhy goal right now is not to obsess about him and I have beed doing pretty well but when I get those calls for help it is so hard. We went out tonight to a dinner with friends and I did pretty well there and actually had a good time..... so I am improving. But on the way home I just got worried again.
I am going to bed with my murder mystery and will read for awhile and hopefully get my mind off of him.... thank goodness although it is a murder mystery it is not about a homeless substance abuser!!
TL
We did think of calling hubbys parents who do not live far from where he is... our thought was they could pick him up and drive him if he called them. Now he does not like them all that much and that itself would be a stretch for him. And we would make it very very clear to them that they should not bring him back to their place. They really don't want to do that! However we don't want to say anything to him about that possibility until we talk to them and we were not able to reach them today. Of course it is Easter and they are probably visiting family.
So I could not rescue him in this way which is maybe just a good thing.
But now I am left wondering what happened and is he ok. I did check the phone records and he was using his phone to text the girlfriend up here until about 9:30.... so at least I know he is alive and that gives me some relief.
But man this detachment thing is so so hard at times. Mhy goal right now is not to obsess about him and I have beed doing pretty well but when I get those calls for help it is so hard. We went out tonight to a dinner with friends and I did pretty well there and actually had a good time..... so I am improving. But on the way home I just got worried again.
I am going to bed with my murder mystery and will read for awhile and hopefully get my mind off of him.... thank goodness although it is a murder mystery it is not about a homeless substance abuser!!
TL