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toughlovin
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Hi all,
Well I have been having a bit more contact with difficult child and last night we had a FB convo. It is a big relief to me to have contact with him. So he is travelling with a friend who was kicked out of the program... no real details as to why but I am sure they are not good. But they are hitchhiking through CA. My difficult child did ask us to get him a backpackers backpack as a birthday present and we have agreed to do that. I kind of wanted to get him something for his birthday and that is a good solid practical gift... so we are coordinating today at a store in both places so that I can pay for it and he can pick it up. Maybe this is enabling, but to me it is showing we support and love him still.
In the process I got to ask him some questions... so I know he is with this male friend (phew much better than if he was with a female friend), I know where he is. He said he is losing weight from burning more energy than he is taking in.... but when I asked him his weight it is still reasonable. I asked him why they were travelling north and his answer was his friend knows some people and it is an adventure.
Oh he has no id at all... he did ask me how to get a passport and that is how it came out he has no id on him. So I asked him to do me a favor and put somewhere in his stuff his name and our phone numbers and he said he has already done that. Phew.
So I know it is not much to be thankful for but I am thankful. Thankful that his name and our phone numbers are with him in case something happens to him. He is not alone, he is with a friend, even though said friend is likel as messed up as difficult child. He is doing something, other than hanging on a corner looking for a fix....my worst fantasy was him on a street corner shooting up heroin. (No idea what substances he is using). Dont get me wrong I am sure they are getting high when they can but at least they are also doing something. Its crazy and it may not last long but that is ok. And I am thankful that he is in touch with me.
TL
Well I have been having a bit more contact with difficult child and last night we had a FB convo. It is a big relief to me to have contact with him. So he is travelling with a friend who was kicked out of the program... no real details as to why but I am sure they are not good. But they are hitchhiking through CA. My difficult child did ask us to get him a backpackers backpack as a birthday present and we have agreed to do that. I kind of wanted to get him something for his birthday and that is a good solid practical gift... so we are coordinating today at a store in both places so that I can pay for it and he can pick it up. Maybe this is enabling, but to me it is showing we support and love him still.
In the process I got to ask him some questions... so I know he is with this male friend (phew much better than if he was with a female friend), I know where he is. He said he is losing weight from burning more energy than he is taking in.... but when I asked him his weight it is still reasonable. I asked him why they were travelling north and his answer was his friend knows some people and it is an adventure.
Oh he has no id at all... he did ask me how to get a passport and that is how it came out he has no id on him. So I asked him to do me a favor and put somewhere in his stuff his name and our phone numbers and he said he has already done that. Phew.
So I know it is not much to be thankful for but I am thankful. Thankful that his name and our phone numbers are with him in case something happens to him. He is not alone, he is with a friend, even though said friend is likel as messed up as difficult child. He is doing something, other than hanging on a corner looking for a fix....my worst fantasy was him on a street corner shooting up heroin. (No idea what substances he is using). Dont get me wrong I am sure they are getting high when they can but at least they are also doing something. Its crazy and it may not last long but that is ok. And I am thankful that he is in touch with me.
TL