Last night, difficult child and I met a friend of mine for dinner. The friend has known difficult child since she was a baby and is very close to our family. She has a brother who has mental health issues and knows all about difficult child.
We were talking about difficult child's job and difficult child made the comment that it was time "to screw up" since she always does. I asked her why she thought that and she said that she always ends up self-sabotaging herself and she was scared since she had done well for a while. I told her that it was good that she was aware of the fact and that she has support to help her stay on the right path now.
The friend and difficult child got on the subject of nature versus nuture and somehow the talk turned to her DBT therapy. difficult child mentioned that she has to keep track of suicide ideation as part of her therapy and that she has thoughts of suicide all of the time. My friend looked shocked and told difficult child to call her if difficult child ever has thoughts of harming herself. She said that she understood being in that dark place and was there at one point when she was battling cancer.
Then . . . difficult child went off to work today and called shortly after she got there very upset. She said she had missed the monthly employee meeting. She said she totally forgot and hadn't looked at the schedule. The owner was very angry and told her to go home for the day and to report back tomorrow. She told difficult child it was her second written warning (she had been late once before due to them changing her schedule and difficult child not writing it down). difficult child also said she mentioned that a client complained about difficult child's hands shaking and not doing a good color job.
I told her to just come home and to stay calm. I was afraid she would start drinking but she did come straight home. I suggested that she call her DBT therapist but she texted her instead. She is scared that she will lose this job. She asked me what was wrong with her that she couldn't hold down a job for more than a couple of months. I told her that she hadn't lost this one yet and that we would get a calendar so she can write down her schedule each week. I also told her that even if she loses the job it won't be the end of the world and that I was proud of her because she is really trying and husband and I can see the effort that she is making.
She really needs help with her anxiety so her hands stop shaking. I told her that we would call the biofeedback people today and see if we could get her started. The psychiatrist that her DBT therapist wants her to see can't see her for six weeks so the DBT therapist is starting to work down her list of psychiatrists to see if she can get her in sooner.
Please keep a good thought that difficult child keeps this job. It will really be a blow to her self confidence and a big set-back if she loses this job.
~Kathy
We were talking about difficult child's job and difficult child made the comment that it was time "to screw up" since she always does. I asked her why she thought that and she said that she always ends up self-sabotaging herself and she was scared since she had done well for a while. I told her that it was good that she was aware of the fact and that she has support to help her stay on the right path now.
The friend and difficult child got on the subject of nature versus nuture and somehow the talk turned to her DBT therapy. difficult child mentioned that she has to keep track of suicide ideation as part of her therapy and that she has thoughts of suicide all of the time. My friend looked shocked and told difficult child to call her if difficult child ever has thoughts of harming herself. She said that she understood being in that dark place and was there at one point when she was battling cancer.
Then . . . difficult child went off to work today and called shortly after she got there very upset. She said she had missed the monthly employee meeting. She said she totally forgot and hadn't looked at the schedule. The owner was very angry and told her to go home for the day and to report back tomorrow. She told difficult child it was her second written warning (she had been late once before due to them changing her schedule and difficult child not writing it down). difficult child also said she mentioned that a client complained about difficult child's hands shaking and not doing a good color job.
I told her to just come home and to stay calm. I was afraid she would start drinking but she did come straight home. I suggested that she call her DBT therapist but she texted her instead. She is scared that she will lose this job. She asked me what was wrong with her that she couldn't hold down a job for more than a couple of months. I told her that she hadn't lost this one yet and that we would get a calendar so she can write down her schedule each week. I also told her that even if she loses the job it won't be the end of the world and that I was proud of her because she is really trying and husband and I can see the effort that she is making.
She really needs help with her anxiety so her hands stop shaking. I told her that we would call the biofeedback people today and see if we could get her started. The psychiatrist that her DBT therapist wants her to see can't see her for six weeks so the DBT therapist is starting to work down her list of psychiatrists to see if she can get her in sooner.
Please keep a good thought that difficult child keeps this job. It will really be a blow to her self confidence and a big set-back if she loses this job.
~Kathy