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toughlovin
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Hi everyone,
Well I talked to the folks at the sober house today. They were affiliated with the rehab....I still don't know what happened with the closing of the rehab but it doesn't sound good and makes me think something was off with the owner!!! Ugh ugh ugh. The sober house folks sound good and committed and the therapists from the rehab are continuing services to the guys which is good. Still it feels a little iffy to me.
And my son sounds a little iffy too. Still misses home, and when he says that I don't think he means us, I think he means friends and the girl back here. He is having a hard time moving forward and they are worried and frustrated with him too. Sounds like they want to take a harder stand with him, you know you need to move forward to become a productive member of society or give your bed to someone else. I agree with this basically. I am wondering if we need to cut down our financial support to add pressure for him to get a job. I told them if he moved back here we would not pay rent unless he went to a sober house.... and if thats what he wants to do he needs to find the sober house. I do not want to find it for him otherwise if he doesn't like it he will blame me. So they are talking to the therapist and will hopefully all be on the same page and come up with a plan. I am thankful there are folks working with him and helping him but it just leaves me worried. I had hoped by now he would have a job and doing something... this hanging out doing nothing is not good for him or his recovery. I have a feeling it won't be long before we will need to take another tough stand with him. Ugh.
Well I talked to the folks at the sober house today. They were affiliated with the rehab....I still don't know what happened with the closing of the rehab but it doesn't sound good and makes me think something was off with the owner!!! Ugh ugh ugh. The sober house folks sound good and committed and the therapists from the rehab are continuing services to the guys which is good. Still it feels a little iffy to me.
And my son sounds a little iffy too. Still misses home, and when he says that I don't think he means us, I think he means friends and the girl back here. He is having a hard time moving forward and they are worried and frustrated with him too. Sounds like they want to take a harder stand with him, you know you need to move forward to become a productive member of society or give your bed to someone else. I agree with this basically. I am wondering if we need to cut down our financial support to add pressure for him to get a job. I told them if he moved back here we would not pay rent unless he went to a sober house.... and if thats what he wants to do he needs to find the sober house. I do not want to find it for him otherwise if he doesn't like it he will blame me. So they are talking to the therapist and will hopefully all be on the same page and come up with a plan. I am thankful there are folks working with him and helping him but it just leaves me worried. I had hoped by now he would have a job and doing something... this hanging out doing nothing is not good for him or his recovery. I have a feeling it won't be long before we will need to take another tough stand with him. Ugh.