Our grandson is 19. His biological father wanted nothing to do with him. Our daughter was married when Brian was 2 and was adopted by this man. He has been brought up being belittled and bullied by this man most of his life whenever his mother was not around. When Brian would say anything his "father" would say he was lying. This has all been witnessed by a step brother, sister and myself but his mother always takes his father's sign. Brian has a bad temper and his father would look for an opportunity to get him upset. Yelling when he took 2 napkins instead of one is just one example. About 2 months ago Brian was doing what his mother told him to do and his father was upset because it delayed his dinner. Anyway, one thing lead to another and the arguing was on. It was so bad the Brian was kicked out of his house. His mother was upset but agreed with his father. He has been living with us since. We feel we are walking on egg shells, he does not like to be asked a lot of questions. He is very bitter and seems like he is full of hate with a large chip on his shoulder. I do not think he is using drugs, but I am not positive. He says he drinks and while we have told him we do not agree with it, we have asked him to never drive after he has been drinking and he has agreed. Then today, he was laid off from his job because he has too many points on his license and is not allowed to drive company vehicles He was in a very bad mood and we tried to talk to him and calm him down before he left and did something dumb, but just ended in a big argument. He left, I am so worried and scared. I don't know how to handle any of this. All I do is pray for his safety. Does anyone have any suggestions as to where to start? I believe he is on the path to self-destruction.