Hello all. I have been MIA due to a very busy summer of teaching an online class but I do read the board each day and always have all of you in my thoughts.
My difficult child is still in Florida living in a sober living apartment complex. She had been working as a receptionist in a salon for about four months but just got fired. She says she messed up the books a lot and had a hard time with anxiety. I don't know the truth of the story but she has been telling me that she was in imminent danger of being fired for over a month and yet never bothered looking for anything else. I even gave her a lead for a great full time job that would have been perfect for her but she refused to follow up on it.
We had been cutting down the amount that we were paying towards her rent each month and now she is claiming that she can't afford to pay her share since she lost her job. Gee, if she knew it was coming for over a month, don't you think she could have saved some money? Actually, I do think she has some money saved but is lying about it. Last month she kept saying that she didn't have any money but suddenly had enough to make a trip to NY.
I have been going to a therapist who has been great at helping me set boundaries. difficult child is really stepping up her antics in trying to get us to let her come home. Her latest mantra is that she is too mentally ill to take care of herself. I asked her treatment team if they thought that was true and they said absolutely not. They said she was capable of holding down a job and taking care of herself but she is just trying to get us to do that for her.
So we have been holding the line which will be harder now that she has lost her job. My therapist said not to help her with this and that she has to learn that she has to have a job if she wants to eat, smoke, and drive her car.
Please give a good thought that difficult child finds a new job quickly and to help us keep that line drawn in the sand.
~Kathy
My difficult child is still in Florida living in a sober living apartment complex. She had been working as a receptionist in a salon for about four months but just got fired. She says she messed up the books a lot and had a hard time with anxiety. I don't know the truth of the story but she has been telling me that she was in imminent danger of being fired for over a month and yet never bothered looking for anything else. I even gave her a lead for a great full time job that would have been perfect for her but she refused to follow up on it.
We had been cutting down the amount that we were paying towards her rent each month and now she is claiming that she can't afford to pay her share since she lost her job. Gee, if she knew it was coming for over a month, don't you think she could have saved some money? Actually, I do think she has some money saved but is lying about it. Last month she kept saying that she didn't have any money but suddenly had enough to make a trip to NY.
I have been going to a therapist who has been great at helping me set boundaries. difficult child is really stepping up her antics in trying to get us to let her come home. Her latest mantra is that she is too mentally ill to take care of herself. I asked her treatment team if they thought that was true and they said absolutely not. They said she was capable of holding down a job and taking care of herself but she is just trying to get us to do that for her.
So we have been holding the line which will be harder now that she has lost her job. My therapist said not to help her with this and that she has to learn that she has to have a job if she wants to eat, smoke, and drive her car.
Please give a good thought that difficult child finds a new job quickly and to help us keep that line drawn in the sand.
~Kathy
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