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Shockingly, my son who assaulted my daughter last winter called early this afternoon. All he said was "Hello, (stated his name) they told me to call because we need some of my papers." It didn't make sense because he has a caseworker who has all of his records and legal papers and more. I made them available right away and have already given them to the agency several times. (Of course, he's on caseworker #3 or something like that so who knows.) I said "You're not supposed to call here" not expecting him to hand the phone to someone else and he said hold-on, I heard an older boys' voice, and a bunch of commotion, and then for about 30 seconds just shuffling around of the phone then they hung up. I was stunned. I felt bad for my reaction the rest of the afernoon and got a headache but also sick to my stomach. My daughter is home all day with me for summer and I could have easily told her to "get the phone". Who knows what he might have said to her had she picked up or how she might be set-back if she had spoken to him or heard his voice. She said once about 2 months ago in therapy that she wanted to see him to cuss him out for what he did to her but I don't know if she truly means it. She also has nightmares about him and is afraid of him. He very violently tried to sexually assault her and physically assaulted her on other occassions and told her he'd kill her if she told. She is 12. Right now, in Residential Treatment Center (RTC), he is refusing to participate in treatment and continues to act out sexually. They already tried him for his assault on her and since it was her word against his, he did not get TYC because he would have been in the general population and not in the sexual offenders' program. Now he's already preyed on other children and still they're not putting him in TYC!!! I'm sickened. Maybe it's because these other children are in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as well, but they could still be inocent as far as sexual stuff. Even if they're not...NO ONE AT ALL should be subjected to a sexual predator no matter what age the predator. It's something a person never gets over. I'm so angry they had him call (if that's true) knowing that we want no contact with him for the security of our daughter and for our daughter's emotional state. They really must be crazy. I know I must sound cold towards him but to give you an idea let me give you an analogy: I don't know if any of you have ever seen the fictional movie "The Good Son" but this is somewhat the kind of child that has been living in my home only we weren't blinded the last few years like the parents in that movie.
I loved these children sooooo much but I can't help him and we are doing everything we can to help her salvage her life after what he's done to her. I would trade lots of my strengths with her demons if I could. I really would. I've had a pretty good life, relatively. Hers is just beginning and it's been so horrible so far.
I loved these children sooooo much but I can't help him and we are doing everything we can to help her salvage her life after what he's done to her. I would trade lots of my strengths with her demons if I could. I really would. I've had a pretty good life, relatively. Hers is just beginning and it's been so horrible so far.