difficult child has a BIG English assignment/research paper due on Monday. They have been working on this in class for at least 3 weeks. The teacher gives them a schedule. Example: Day 1 and 2, research, day 2,4& 5, make note cards. I can tell you by now, when the words "note cards" and "resources" are in the assignment, there are many meltdowns in my life. This past week was the last week for working on the assignment, and difficult child assured me that she was doing lots of work in class. Well, the paper is to be turned in on Monday, and she is not done. Had a major tantrum today - just bringing up the subject of "when do you plan to work on your report today?" It led to tears, yelling, her running out of the house and down the block, as she needed to cool off. Her idea of "cooling off and calming down" always involves her yelling at us to shut up.
So... after "cooling off" she admits that she left her outline at school and now doesn't know what to do for her report. Huh?? She has been researching, making note cards, reading about the subject, making the outline, and now says she doesn't have a clue what is in the outline?
Then to top if off, she has the audacity to ask to buy an Ipod today ! She does have some Christmas and birthday money, but why would I let her buy an Ipod when she isn't doing her homework? Just one more distraction to keep her away from homework. To make matters worse, the school doesn't think she has a problem... as she usually manages to squeak by (She had an F the first trimester, and a D the 2nd trimester in this class). The insurance won't approve any of the testing suggested by the neuropsychologist. We are waiting on an insurance OK because we have had our "6" therapy appointments for the year!
She refuses to open up with the therapist anyway. She won't follow thru with her suggestions. Or she will try something once and give up and refuse to try again. It all seems like a waste of time. No matter what I say or suggest, she has a "good reason" not to do any of it. She will talk and "explain" every detail but won't listen or try anything. I just want to scream. I don't think we have a good diagnosis... ADD and anxiety. I looked up personality disorders as I thought she might be bipolar (like biomom) and there are similarities. But the one that fits her to a T is histrionic personality disorder. I have never really heard of that one on this board (I am new here this last year) but curious if other teens have been diagnosis as histrionic?
Thanks for letting me vent. KSM
So... after "cooling off" she admits that she left her outline at school and now doesn't know what to do for her report. Huh?? She has been researching, making note cards, reading about the subject, making the outline, and now says she doesn't have a clue what is in the outline?
Then to top if off, she has the audacity to ask to buy an Ipod today ! She does have some Christmas and birthday money, but why would I let her buy an Ipod when she isn't doing her homework? Just one more distraction to keep her away from homework. To make matters worse, the school doesn't think she has a problem... as she usually manages to squeak by (She had an F the first trimester, and a D the 2nd trimester in this class). The insurance won't approve any of the testing suggested by the neuropsychologist. We are waiting on an insurance OK because we have had our "6" therapy appointments for the year!
She refuses to open up with the therapist anyway. She won't follow thru with her suggestions. Or she will try something once and give up and refuse to try again. It all seems like a waste of time. No matter what I say or suggest, she has a "good reason" not to do any of it. She will talk and "explain" every detail but won't listen or try anything. I just want to scream. I don't think we have a good diagnosis... ADD and anxiety. I looked up personality disorders as I thought she might be bipolar (like biomom) and there are similarities. But the one that fits her to a T is histrionic personality disorder. I have never really heard of that one on this board (I am new here this last year) but curious if other teens have been diagnosis as histrionic?
Thanks for letting me vent. KSM