klmno
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to wake up to my mother leaving a message on my answering machine after not calling this house for 6 mos at least, (she emails occasionally), demanding that I call her and give her some answers about difficult child. She said she felt like Susan and George Anthony (never mind that the kid was on probation and seen often) and if I didn't call and give her some answers, she was going to start making some calls to people in this area because she is the grandmother and she has rights.
Never mind that she has told me time again that my bro had no business calling people up here and stirring up stuff in our lives 2 years ago and that she hasn't spoken to him or had any contact with him in almost that long. Never mind that I have told here difficult child is incarcerated and I don't know exactly how long but it will be until some time next year. Never mind that I have told her she can come up here and I'd take her to visit but he is not allowed to call her and no one besides parents/guardians, sibs, and grandparents are allowed to visit. (And she has said she can't get up here because she doesn't want to drive and won't fly and leave her dog with someone else to watch.)
True, I have not given her a lot of detail about difficult child. But partly because of the way she pumped me for info before only to twist it around, tell my bro, and get him stirred up to file for custody. If she cared that much, she would be more involved in difficult child's life instead of just pumping me for info about him periodically.
She suffers from depression and anxiety (and I swear, I think narcissism) to the point that sometimes I think she's delusional. Throughout my life there have been times when she gets nervous or upset about something then calls people up at work or embaresses them in front of others or whatever it takes until she gets all the attention she wants. Then she'll throw out a nonchalant "I'm sorry" and expect all to be forgotten and forgiven. I've talked to her about this a million times- she always agrees to try to stay rational and just call and discuss something with me instead of stirring up carp next time- then it ends up happening again anyway.
If she just can't trust what I tell her about difficult child, I can't really help that. The facility is not allowed to confirm or deny difficult child's commitment and neither is anyone at local Department of Juvenile Justice. That means she'd be calling the GAL and stirring her up. She has her phone number because my bro got the GAL to call my mother during the custody case. As it turned out, my mother told the GAL that she thought I was a good mother and difficult child should stay with me. Technically, GAL is currently off this case and really should not be giving any info about difficult child out to anyone, even his grandmother. But I'd bet money that she sits there and has a long conversation and stuff gets stirred up all over again. And more than likely- something is going on with my bro again.
Well, I don't think someone else can file for custody if I don't even have custody and Department of Juvenile Justice does.
Now that I'm on my second cup o coffee I'm getting ready to call her. maybe I'll just tell her that if she thinks he's missing and doesn't believe me that she can call cops here and report him as missing. (As soon as they look into the first thing, they will see where he is.)
Never mind that she has told me time again that my bro had no business calling people up here and stirring up stuff in our lives 2 years ago and that she hasn't spoken to him or had any contact with him in almost that long. Never mind that I have told here difficult child is incarcerated and I don't know exactly how long but it will be until some time next year. Never mind that I have told her she can come up here and I'd take her to visit but he is not allowed to call her and no one besides parents/guardians, sibs, and grandparents are allowed to visit. (And she has said she can't get up here because she doesn't want to drive and won't fly and leave her dog with someone else to watch.)
True, I have not given her a lot of detail about difficult child. But partly because of the way she pumped me for info before only to twist it around, tell my bro, and get him stirred up to file for custody. If she cared that much, she would be more involved in difficult child's life instead of just pumping me for info about him periodically.
She suffers from depression and anxiety (and I swear, I think narcissism) to the point that sometimes I think she's delusional. Throughout my life there have been times when she gets nervous or upset about something then calls people up at work or embaresses them in front of others or whatever it takes until she gets all the attention she wants. Then she'll throw out a nonchalant "I'm sorry" and expect all to be forgotten and forgiven. I've talked to her about this a million times- she always agrees to try to stay rational and just call and discuss something with me instead of stirring up carp next time- then it ends up happening again anyway.
If she just can't trust what I tell her about difficult child, I can't really help that. The facility is not allowed to confirm or deny difficult child's commitment and neither is anyone at local Department of Juvenile Justice. That means she'd be calling the GAL and stirring her up. She has her phone number because my bro got the GAL to call my mother during the custody case. As it turned out, my mother told the GAL that she thought I was a good mother and difficult child should stay with me. Technically, GAL is currently off this case and really should not be giving any info about difficult child out to anyone, even his grandmother. But I'd bet money that she sits there and has a long conversation and stuff gets stirred up all over again. And more than likely- something is going on with my bro again.
Well, I don't think someone else can file for custody if I don't even have custody and Department of Juvenile Justice does.
Now that I'm on my second cup o coffee I'm getting ready to call her. maybe I'll just tell her that if she thinks he's missing and doesn't believe me that she can call cops here and report him as missing. (As soon as they look into the first thing, they will see where he is.)
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