BusynMember
Well-Known Member
There is no one proper way to hold a baby unless you let the head hang down (that would be dangerous). There are no real right or Wong ways to do anything. There are people who have opinion is all. My kids thrived fine and I had no idea there was a right or wrong way to do these things.
Now I have opinion s too on right and wrong things to do from every topic from babies to working to anything in the world. But an opinion is not a truth. It is just what WE prefer and think is better.
I never watched my mom when I was little. I don't think she even held us with the bottle. I know she didn't even consider breastfeeding. She propped the bottle for me, claiming I didn't like to be held. I don't remember nor did I care if she actually cuddled my siblings when feeding them. I never once watched her change a diaper. I WISHED she would have gotten a job and left me alone!
Sven is right though. In high earner areas mother's, even way back then, did not work. They probably did lunch, shopped, did PTA, hired maids (they did in my community,) and had it easy. That did not mean they spent more time being motherly. Some did, some didn't. My mother sure didn't.
I was a good mom, even with no example. I just wasn't interested in my mom and siblings. My mom was a witch to me. I didn't want to be like her. So I did a better job with my kids, nothing like her.
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Women are not biologically wired to be mothers. That is a fallacy. Many women are abusive and neglectful toward their babies or don't even want to have babies.
Everything on earth is subjective.
Now I have opinion s too on right and wrong things to do from every topic from babies to working to anything in the world. But an opinion is not a truth. It is just what WE prefer and think is better.
I never watched my mom when I was little. I don't think she even held us with the bottle. I know she didn't even consider breastfeeding. She propped the bottle for me, claiming I didn't like to be held. I don't remember nor did I care if she actually cuddled my siblings when feeding them. I never once watched her change a diaper. I WISHED she would have gotten a job and left me alone!
Sven is right though. In high earner areas mother's, even way back then, did not work. They probably did lunch, shopped, did PTA, hired maids (they did in my community,) and had it easy. That did not mean they spent more time being motherly. Some did, some didn't. My mother sure didn't.
I was a good mom, even with no example. I just wasn't interested in my mom and siblings. My mom was a witch to me. I didn't want to be like her. So I did a better job with my kids, nothing like her.
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Women are not biologically wired to be mothers. That is a fallacy. Many women are abusive and neglectful toward their babies or don't even want to have babies.
Everything on earth is subjective.
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