It's been seven days since I gave my 19 yr old 5 minutes to pack and get out of my house. He started acting out the end of his junior yr in high school. Running away and constantly getting in trouble in school his senior year. Gave no and showed no respect for anyone including himself. It has just gotten worse. He got a DUI in January and almost killed his three best friends. Thankfully everyone ended up ok in the end. He was arrested again last weekend and spent Friday night in jail for underage drinking and fighting. He was ignorant and disrespectful to the police who are our family friends that he grew up with. Then he didn't even tell me I had to hear about it when I ran into one of the cops and he asked me if my son told me what happened. I don't know if he has a drinking problem, I only know him to drink on weekends and only when he can come up with money for it. He has pretended to try and get a job since last June. I've tried everything from grounding to taking things away, to bribing and taking him to a therapist that he refused to talk to. We've gotten into fist fights and he has gotten very nasty. I have a daughter in college a year older that is the totally opposite of him and always has been. I also have two step children that are both older than him. I've raised all four the same. I know this is partly my fault for always giving in and I admit I do everything for all of my kids. I just don't understand what I did wrong with him. The other three are all in college and work. Now I'm so worried about where he is and what he's doing I'm not sleeping and I get so upset I make myself sick. My heart is telling me to just go find him and bring him home but my mind is telling me he needs to grow up and hit rock bottom so he will realize he needs a real productive life. I don't know what to do or how to act or how or if I can help him. I'm just looking for any advise anyone can offer, I'm lost.....