PatriotsGirl
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We have done some serious heart searching, thinking, and talking regarding taking custody of Connor. There is no question. Never was, really. It is just not who we are as people. Of course we are going to care for our grandson for as long as we need to. We are certainly not happy with her and her choices. But there is no doubt this little boy will be surrounded by love and he will be very well cared for. I have made peace with this decision. God has a plan. We may not always know what it is and it may not be what we think it was, but He does have a plan. Life throws many curve balls and life does not always go the way we had hoped or planned. But Connor is our family and he will be with us for as long as he needs to be.
Thank you ALL for your support, input, advice, and prayers.
Step - you were right. I was never in danger of losing my husband over this. He is so unbelievably incredible. I have his support 1000% and he will be right by my side. I have definitely fallen more and more in love with him...
I have not heard from anyone at DFCS, yet. I still don't know if they are going to ask us to take him for a short time or until she gets it together. I am prepared it may be life long and I have reconciled with that.
I did some looking around online and found out that the "presumed" baby daddy will be going to court for his arrest last year on 9/9/13. He is still in jail, too, so I am thinking he will be there until that court date. I will be allowed to be present for the birth which I fully intend on being there. We changed our camping spot to the same town as the hospital so it will be a short distance for me to get there is she goes into labor a little early.
Now to start buying the basics. I bought a stroller at Goodwill yesterday - a jogging one in great condition for 20 bucks! But I don't want to go crazy buying a bunch if it ends up being short term so I am trying to wait until I hear from them. I plan on getting a bassinet/play pen combo for the immediate time. It folds up so we can take it up north for Thanksgiving and set it up in the hotel.
My inlaws have also offered to pay for all legal fees and adoption costs if it comes to that...of course we are praying like crazy she gets it together, but we are fully prepared for the fact that it may never happen. One thing is for sure - she will not be popping in and out of our home to "visit" him and then go off on her merry way while we are raising him. She will either get it together and take back custody or she can stay away and give the little boy a chance.
I have not talked to difficult child and have no plans to. I am not putting any more money on the phone account. All she does is call and complain about being there. We have warned her for YEARS that she would end up there and did everything we could to stop it. I am certainly not going to pay to listen to her complain about it now that it has happened. I have put money on her books for food - for my grandson. He needs all the nutrition he can possibly get. I started attempting to write a letter just to remain in contact, but realized I honestly don't have anything to say. I have said all there is to say and there is no more. Not at this time anyway...she maintains she did not use and it was Prilosec giving a false positive. I maintain she is lying because I cannot believe a thing she says anymore...
So there is my update and that is where we are right now. Please keep us in your prayers...
Thank you ALL for your support, input, advice, and prayers.
Step - you were right. I was never in danger of losing my husband over this. He is so unbelievably incredible. I have his support 1000% and he will be right by my side. I have definitely fallen more and more in love with him...
I have not heard from anyone at DFCS, yet. I still don't know if they are going to ask us to take him for a short time or until she gets it together. I am prepared it may be life long and I have reconciled with that.
I did some looking around online and found out that the "presumed" baby daddy will be going to court for his arrest last year on 9/9/13. He is still in jail, too, so I am thinking he will be there until that court date. I will be allowed to be present for the birth which I fully intend on being there. We changed our camping spot to the same town as the hospital so it will be a short distance for me to get there is she goes into labor a little early.
Now to start buying the basics. I bought a stroller at Goodwill yesterday - a jogging one in great condition for 20 bucks! But I don't want to go crazy buying a bunch if it ends up being short term so I am trying to wait until I hear from them. I plan on getting a bassinet/play pen combo for the immediate time. It folds up so we can take it up north for Thanksgiving and set it up in the hotel.
My inlaws have also offered to pay for all legal fees and adoption costs if it comes to that...of course we are praying like crazy she gets it together, but we are fully prepared for the fact that it may never happen. One thing is for sure - she will not be popping in and out of our home to "visit" him and then go off on her merry way while we are raising him. She will either get it together and take back custody or she can stay away and give the little boy a chance.
I have not talked to difficult child and have no plans to. I am not putting any more money on the phone account. All she does is call and complain about being there. We have warned her for YEARS that she would end up there and did everything we could to stop it. I am certainly not going to pay to listen to her complain about it now that it has happened. I have put money on her books for food - for my grandson. He needs all the nutrition he can possibly get. I started attempting to write a letter just to remain in contact, but realized I honestly don't have anything to say. I have said all there is to say and there is no more. Not at this time anyway...she maintains she did not use and it was Prilosec giving a false positive. I maintain she is lying because I cannot believe a thing she says anymore...
So there is my update and that is where we are right now. Please keep us in your prayers...